Only shadow ARGB windows with a frame outside the frame

An ARGB window with a frame is likely something like a transparent
terminal. It looks awful (and breaks transparency) to draw a big
opaque black shadow under the window, so clip out the region under
the terminal from the shadow we draw.

Add meta_window_get_frame_bounds() to get a cairo region for the
outer bounds of the frame of a window, and modify the frame handling
code to notice changes to the frame shape and discard a cached
region. meta_frames_apply_shapes() is refactored so we can extract
meta_frames_get_frame_bounds() from it.

https://bugzilla.gnome.org/show_bug.cgi?id=635268